ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
Why You Can’t Slow Down: Burnout, Self-Care, and the Pressure to Always Be Productive
You know you need rest, but slowing down feels uncomfortable. Instead of recharging, you feel guilty, anxious, or like you should be doing more. This article explores why burnout is not just about doing too much, but about deeper patterns shaped by upbringing, culture, and self-worth and how to start building a healthier relationship with rest and self-care.
Learned Helplessness in Immigrant Families: Why You Feel Stuck Even When Life Has Changed
Learned helplessness can develop when childhood environments repeatedly teach that effort does not change outcomes. For many children of immigrants, this shows up later in adulthood as difficulty taking action, tolerating discomfort, or believing that change is possible even when circumstances have improved.
Why You Overthink Conversations After They Happen And How Childhood Patterns Keep It Going
Do you replay conversations in your head and wonder if you said the wrong thing? Overthinking conversations is often connected to deeper patterns shaped by childhood experiences, family dynamics, and the pressure to avoid mistakes. Learn why your mind does this and how to build a healthier relationship with yourself and others.
Signs You Grew Up With Emotional Neglect (in Asian Immigrant Families)
Emotional neglect does not always look like obvious trauma. Many people grow up with loving parents who provided food, shelter, and education, yet still struggle with feeling disconnected, unsupported, or unsure of their own emotions. Learn how childhood emotional neglect develops, why it is common in Asian immigrant families, and how it impacts anxiety, relationships, self worth, and emotional connection in adulthood.
Why You Self-Sacrifice in Relationships and Why it Feels Like Love: Filial Piety and Emotional Neglect in Asian Families
Filial piety often teaches you to prioritize your family over yourself, but over time, that can turn into guilt, people-pleasing, and difficulty setting boundaries. This article explores how self-sacrifice in Asian families shapes your relationships and why it’s so hard to choose yourself without feeling like you’re doing something wrong.
The Model Minority Myth: How It Impacts Asian Mental Health, Identity, and Self-Worth
The Model Minority Myth affects more than how Asian communities are viewed. It can shape our identity, self-worth, perfectionism, and mental health. Learn how this stereotype impacts Asian Canadians and how to define yourself beyond achievement.
Anti-Black Racism in Asian Communities: Why It Matters for Your Own Healing
Many Asian Canadians grow up disconnected from the history of racism. This post explores how anti-Black racism and internalized racism are connected, and why understanding both is essential for healing and self-awareness.
How Asian Canadians Navigate Racism, Privilege, and Solidarity
Asian Canadians often navigate both racism and privilege in complex ways. This explores how understanding these experiences can deepen empathy, identity, and connection across communities.
What Internalized Racism Looks Like for Asian Canadians And How to Heal It
Internalized racism can quietly shape how you see yourself and others. This explores how it shows up in everyday thoughts, and how reflection can help you begin to heal.
How Immigrant Families Pass Down Identity, Trauma, and Meaning
From family traditions to shared memories, immigrant experiences shape identity in ways we don’t always recognize. This explores how meaning, trauma, and connection are passed across generations.
Why It Feels So Hard to Spend Money on Yourself as an Asian Immigrant or Second Generation Adult
Many second generation Asian immigrants struggle with spending money on themselves, even when financially stable. This article explores how scarcity mindset, cultural guilt, and early family conditioning shape emotional patterns around money and self worth.
Everything Everywhere All at Once and the Immigrant Parent Child Relationship: Exploring Cultural Expectations and Family Dynamics
Everything Everywhere All at Once highlights many themes familiar to children of immigrants, including family expectations, cultural differences, sacrifice, and identity. I was featured in this VeryWell Mind article, where I share my perspective on immigrant parent-child relationships and the mental health experiences that shape Asian families.
Asian Immigrant Mental Health: Understanding Shame, Filial Piety, and Intergenerational Trauma
Asian immigrant mental health is shaped by more than individual experiences. In this panel discussion, Harry Au explores intergenerational trauma, shame, filial piety, family expectations, and the experiences that influence mental health in Asian communities
Identity, Activism, and Asian Mental Health: Navigating Culture, Expectations, and Finding Your Own Path
Many Asian Canadians navigate the tension between cultural expectations, community responsibility, and the desire to live an authentic life. In this podcast conversation, I explore Asian identity, activism, the model minority myth, and how these experiences shape mental health, belonging, and personal freedom
Codependency in Asian Immigrant Families: A Conversation With Harry Au
Many adult children of Asian immigrant families struggle with guilt, boundaries, and feeling responsible for their family’s emotions. In this podcast conversation, I explore how immigrant family dynamics can contribute to codependent patterns and how adult children can create healthier relationships while honoring their cultural values.
What It Means to Be Asian Canadian: Identity, Belonging, and Self-Acceptance
Exploring what it means to navigate identity as an Asian Canadian, and how culture, belonging, and self-acceptance shape the way we see ourselves.
Anti-Asian Racism During COVID-19: A Message to Asian Canadians
A message to Asian Canadians navigating fear, grief, and racism during COVID-19—and a reminder that you are not alone.