ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking, Even When Life Feels Fine
Overthinking is often misunderstood as “thinking too much,” but it is actually an anxiety driven pattern rooted in emotional safety, perfectionism, and early life conditioning. This article explores why overthinking becomes chronic, especially in high functioning individuals and Asian Canadian immigrant contexts, and how it connects to trauma, emotional suppression, and burnout. You will learn what is actually happening beneath the mental loops and what helps shift this pattern over time.
How to Stop Burnout When You Can’t Slow Down: A Practical Guide
You know you’re burnt out—but slowing down feels impossible. Here’s how to understand the deeper patterns behind burnout and start changing them.
Welcome to Therapy with harry: Mental Health for Asian Canadians
Welcome to Harry Au Therapy—supporting Asian Canadians navigating anxiety, trauma, and identity.
Why You Struggle With Self-Care: 6 Hidden Causes of Burnout
Burnout isn’t just about doing too much. Here are 6 deeper psychological reasons why self-care can feel so difficult.
7 Self-Care Mistakes That Worsen Anxiety and Burnout And What Helps Instead
Struggling with anxiety or burnout? These 7 self-care mistakes might be making it worse—and here’s what actually helps.
Anti-Asian Racism During COVID-19: A Message to Asian Canadians
A message to Asian Canadians navigating fear, grief, and racism during COVID-19—and a reminder that you are not alone.
The Lonely Marathon: A Poem About Loneliness, Connection, and Emotional Survival
A reflective poem exploring loneliness, emotional endurance, and the quiet shared experience of human suffering. It moves through isolation and self perception toward the realization that emotional pain is often shared rather than solitary.
Fighting Anti Asian Racism in Toronto Chinatown: Storytelling, Community, and Belonging
Chinatown in Toronto is undergoing cultural and economic change shaped by anti Asian racism, gentrification, and community displacement. This post explores a storytelling project that highlights lived experiences, collective memory, and the importance of preserving community identity and belonging.
Why Good Therapists Do Their Own Healing Work: What Clients Should Know About Therapy
Many people worry about whether their therapist is “qualified enough” or emotionally stable enough to help them. This post explores why good therapists actively engage in their own healing work, how this supports client care, and why therapy is ultimately a human relational process rather than a one sided expert dynamic.
Turning Red and Intergenerational Trauma: What the Film Gets Right About Asian Family Dynamics
Turning Red offers a powerful portrayal of emotional inheritance and mother daughter dynamics in Asian families. This explores what the film gets right and what it simplifies about intergenerational trauma, emotional suppression, and the slow process of change across generations.
Asian Identity in Canada: Why There Is No “Right Way” to Be Asian
Many Asian Canadians grow up feeling pressure to define their identity through external expectations such as cultural authenticity or assimilation. This post explores how identity is shaped by personal experience, systemic racism, and cultural expectations, and why there is no single correct way to be Asian.
Mental Health Benefits of Journaling: How to Start When You Hate Journaling
Journaling can start as something you resist or avoid, but it often becomes a powerful tool for emotional clarity and regulation over time. This explores how journaling shifts from a task into a reflective practice that improves awareness, reduces avoidance, and supports mental health.
FOB vs Banana Labels: Why Asian Identity Is More Complex Than Either Category
Identity labels like FOB and “banana” force a false binary on Asian identity that does not reflect lived experience. Many second generation Asians exist in between and beyond these categories, and real psychological health comes from moving past external labels toward a more flexible and self defined sense of identity.
9 Stages of Journaling for Mental Health: How Emotional Processing Evolves Over Time
Journaling is not a fixed habit but a changing psychological tool that evolves with emotional growth. This outlines nine stages of journaling, from avoidance and venting to structured cognitive reflection and eventually intentional self awareness, showing how emotional processing deepens over time.
Learned Helplessness in Immigrant Families: Why You Feel Stuck Even When Life Has Changed
Learned helplessness can develop when childhood environments repeatedly teach that effort does not change outcomes. For many children of immigrants, this shows up later in adulthood as difficulty taking action, tolerating discomfort, or believing that change is possible even when circumstances have improved.
Rebel vs Explorer Identity: How to Move Beyond Fight Mode Into Authentic Living
Many people build identity around resistance and fighting injustice, but this can quietly keep them stuck in tension and burnout. This explores the difference between a “rebel” identity and an “explorer” identity, and how shifting toward curiosity and self discovery creates more freedom, authenticity, and emotional balance.
Asian Mental Health Stigma Is Real But Racism Plays a Bigger Role
Mental health stigma in Asian communities is often blamed for everything. This post challenges that narrative by exploring how racism and structural oppression shape mental health in deeper ways.
Why Asking for Help Feels So Hard (Especially If You’re Used to Being Strong)
If you are used to handling everything on your own, asking for help can feel uncomfortable or even shameful. This post explores why that happens and what changes when you finally let yourself receive support.
How to Let Go of Perfectionism and Enjoy Reading Again
Struggling to read without feeling pressure to finish everything perfectly? This post breaks down how perfectionism kills motivation and how to build a more flexible, enjoyable relationship with reading.
Anti-Black Racism in Asian Communities: Why It Matters for Your Own Healing
Many Asian Canadians grow up disconnected from the history of racism. This post explores how anti-Black racism and internalized racism are connected, and why understanding both is essential for healing and self-awareness.