ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
Fear of Abandonment and Rejection: Why It Feels So Intense (and What to Do About It)
Fear of rejection and abandonment can feel overwhelming—but it’s not a flaw. This article explains the evolutionary and psychological roots of these fears, and how to start regulating them in your daily life.
4 Warning Signs Your Therapist Doesn’t Understand Your Culture
Not all therapy is culturally safe, and misunderstandings about identity can significantly impact trust, safety, and outcomes in treatment. This article outlines common signs that a therapist may be relying on stereotypes, oversimplified cultural assumptions, or deficit-based thinking when working with Asian clients. It also explores the complexity of cultural identity and why true cultural competence requires curiosity, flexibility, and an understanding of systemic forces rather than assumptions or generalizations.
Why Good Therapists Do Their Own Healing Work: What Clients Should Know About Therapy
Many people worry about whether their therapist is “qualified enough” or emotionally stable enough to help them. This post explores why good therapists actively engage in their own healing work, how this supports client care, and why therapy is ultimately a human relational process rather than a one sided expert dynamic.
What Sports Reveal About Your Psychology: Ego, Codependency, and Fear of Failure in Performance
Sports often reveal psychological patterns we do not notice in daily life. This article explores how fear of being selfish, codependent tendencies, and avoidance of failure can show up in competitive play and reflect deeper relational patterns.
People Pleasing and Anger: Why Suppressed Needs Turn Into Explosive Emotional Reactions
People pleasing often looks calm on the surface, but it can build into intense emotional pressure over time. This article explores how suppressed needs, insecure attachment, and fear of rejection can lead to anger, and how boundaries help regulate emotional intensity.
10 Mental Health Strategies for Surviving Family Gatherings When You Dread the Holidays
Family gatherings can be emotionally complex, especially when relationships are strained. This practical guide offers strategies for navigating holidays with more safety and intention, including boundary setting, exit plans, emotional preparation, and ways to protect your mental health while staying connected on your own terms.
The Lonely Marathon: A Poem About Loneliness, Connection, and Emotional Survival
A reflective poem exploring loneliness, emotional endurance, and the quiet shared experience of human suffering. It moves through isolation and self perception toward the realization that emotional pain is often shared rather than solitary.