ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
Why You Self-Sacrifice in Relationships (Filial Piety in Asian Families Explained)
Filial piety often teaches you to prioritize your family over yourself, but over time, that can turn into guilt, people-pleasing, and difficulty setting boundaries. This article explores how self-sacrifice in Asian families shapes your relationships and why it’s so hard to choose yourself without feeling like you’re doing something wrong.
Why You Think Love Requires Sacrifice: Breaking the Cycle of Self Abandonment in Relationships
Many people learn early that love requires sacrifice, especially in immigrant families where duty and care are intertwined. This article unpacks how self abandonment becomes normalized in relationships, why resentment builds over time, and how shifting toward mutual care changes the way we give and receive love.
10 Mental Health Strategies for Surviving Family Gatherings When You Dread the Holidays
Family gatherings can be emotionally complex, especially when relationships are strained. This practical guide offers strategies for navigating holidays with more safety and intention, including boundary setting, exit plans, emotional preparation, and ways to protect your mental health while staying connected on your own terms.
5 Hidden Costs of Ending Intergenerational Trauma in Asian Families (No One Talks About This)
Being the first person in your family to address intergenerational trauma is both transformative and deeply painful. This article explores the hidden emotional costs of change, including blame, shame, misunderstanding, and relational tension, and why healing often disrupts family systems before it creates lasting change.