ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
5 Hidden Costs of Ending Intergenerational Trauma in Asian Families (No One Talks About This)
Being the first person in your family to address intergenerational trauma is both transformative and deeply painful. This article explores the hidden emotional costs of change, including blame, shame, misunderstanding, and relational tension, and why healing often disrupts family systems before it creates lasting change.
Turning Red and Intergenerational Trauma: What the Film Gets Right About Asian Family Dynamics
Turning Red offers a powerful portrayal of emotional inheritance and mother daughter dynamics in Asian families. This explores what the film gets right and what it simplifies about intergenerational trauma, emotional suppression, and the slow process of change across generations.
Why You Overthink Conversations After They Happen And How Childhood Patterns Keep It Going
Do you replay conversations in your head and wonder if you said the wrong thing? Overthinking conversations is often connected to deeper patterns shaped by childhood experiences, family dynamics, and the pressure to avoid mistakes. Learn why your mind does this and how to build a healthier relationship with yourself and others.
Why You Self-Sacrifice in Relationships and Why it Feels Like Love: Filial Piety and Emotional Neglect in Asian Families
Filial piety often teaches you to prioritize your family over yourself, but over time, that can turn into guilt, people-pleasing, and difficulty setting boundaries. This article explores how self-sacrifice in Asian families shapes your relationships and why it’s so hard to choose yourself without feeling like you’re doing something wrong.
How Immigrant Families Pass Down Identity, Trauma, and Meaning
From family traditions to shared memories, immigrant experiences shape identity in ways we don’t always recognize. This explores how meaning, trauma, and connection are passed across generations.
10 Mental Health Strategies for Surviving Family Gatherings When You Dread the Holidays
Family gatherings can be emotionally complex, especially when relationships are strained. This practical guide offers strategies for navigating holidays with more safety and intention, including boundary setting, exit plans, emotional preparation, and ways to protect your mental health while staying connected on your own terms.
Everything Everywhere All at Once and the Immigrant Parent Child Relationship: Exploring Cultural Expectations and Family Dynamics
Everything Everywhere All at Once highlights many themes familiar to children of immigrants, including family expectations, cultural differences, sacrifice, and identity. I was featured in this VeryWell Mind article, where I share my perspective on immigrant parent-child relationships and the mental health experiences that shape Asian families.
Asian Immigrant Mental Health: Understanding Shame, Filial Piety, and Intergenerational Trauma
Asian immigrant mental health is shaped by more than individual experiences. In this panel discussion, Harry Au explores intergenerational trauma, shame, filial piety, family expectations, and the experiences that influence mental health in Asian communities
Therapy for Asian Canadians: Understanding Identity, Family, and Emotional Wellbeing
Many Asian Canadians struggle to find a therapist who understands the cultural experiences that shape their mental health. In this podcast conversation, I discuss therapy for Asian diaspora communities, including identity, family expectations, emotional expression, and the challenges many Asian Canadians face when seeking support.
Codependency in Asian Immigrant Families: A Conversation With Harry Au
Many adult children of Asian immigrant families struggle with guilt, boundaries, and feeling responsible for their family’s emotions. In this podcast conversation, I explore how immigrant family dynamics can contribute to codependent patterns and how adult children can create healthier relationships while honoring their cultural values.