ASIAN MENTAL HEALTH BLOG
Writing on Asian identity, family dynamics, and the work of becoming yourself.
Honest, specific, and written for 1.5 and 2nd generation Asian immigrants who are done with generic advice.
I write about the things my clients bring into sessions. The guilt that surfaces when you try to want something different. The anger that has been building for years without a name. The family dynamics that shaped you before you knew they were shaping you.
The topics are specific because the experiences are specific. If you have ever felt like mainstream mental health content was not really written for you, you are probably right. This is.
Why It Feels So Hard to Spend Money on Yourself as an Asian Immigrant or Second Generation Adult
Many second generation Asian immigrants struggle with spending money on themselves, even when financially stable. This article explores how scarcity mindset, cultural guilt, and early family conditioning shape emotional patterns around money and self worth.
What Your Fantasies Reveal About Trauma, Identity, and Emotional Healing in Asian Canadian Men
Your inner fantasies are not random. They often reflect unmet emotional needs, identity formation, and early relational experiences. This article explores how imagination can reveal patterns of trauma, masculinity, and healing across different stages of emotional development.
4 Warning Signs Your Therapist Doesn’t Understand Your Culture
Not all therapy is culturally safe, and misunderstandings about identity can significantly impact trust, safety, and outcomes in treatment. This article outlines common signs that a therapist may be relying on stereotypes, oversimplified cultural assumptions, or deficit-based thinking when working with Asian clients. It also explores the complexity of cultural identity and why true cultural competence requires curiosity, flexibility, and an understanding of systemic forces rather than assumptions or generalizations.
Why You Can’t Rest: How Trauma, Productivity, and the Model Minority Myth Keep You in a Constant State of Doing
Rest can feel uncomfortable or even impossible when your self worth has been shaped by productivity and achievement. This article explores how trauma, family expectations, and the model minority myth create chronic overdoing, and how learning to rest requires unlearning shame, urgency, and emotional avoidance.